Science of Attraction
Why
do some men get so much attention from women, with little or no effort? We assume
that these women -ultimately- want to settle down with a nice stable guy - someone
who is reliable and will provide for her and her children. Why, then, are nice
guys frequently casualties in the dating and relationship quest? Discover
the surprising answers and learn how to improve your dating success.
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Male Traits That Attract Women
Author: Ron Lanning
The human mating ritual is a product of four million years of evolution. The things that create mutual attraction are not logical and, in many cases, not even intuitive. If you've already made the fatal assumption that women select their mates logically, and think in any way like men do; then, you've probably already felt frustration and faced failure in the dating arena.
There is some truth to the saying that nice guys finish last. While intellectualizing her relationship needs, a woman my truly believe she is looking for a nice guy. In reality, however, nice guys won't -generally- hold her attention. Nice guys are... well... NICE! They sacrifice and conform to the wishes of the women they are attracted to. They often treat their women like princesses! It is logical to assume that women want to be spoiled and catered to... right? The truth, however, is that the "nice guy" behavior is a real turn-off for most women!
Men often assume that physical appearance rates high for women. In reality, it only plays a small part (maybe 10 percent) in all the things that add up to attractiveness. Of course, a well-groomed and well-dressed man says something about his past successes and potential for future success.
Another common assumption (and myth) is that women like guys who are shy, non-arrogant and highly intellectual. Women are, in fact, attracted to men with strong-confident personalities, even when it's accompanied by a little cockiness. Leadership and past success are not always attributed to intellect.
It's impossible to get inside a woman's head; but, wisdom-of-the-ages have taught us a lot about her mating behavior. Women seem to find the following male traits desirable:
- Past success and the potential for future success is an attractive quality. This is evidenced by appearance, the type of job you hold, the type of car you drive, etc. When a woman looks at you, she is also looking ahead... Are you a survivor and a provider? Is your behavior and attitude compatible with her longer-term needs?
- Leadership and confidence are also attractive to women. Did you approach her with confidence? Did you voice quiver and crack when you uttered that first hello? Did your body language suggest that you were uncomfortable in her presence?
- Charisma and flirtatiousness are also found to be attractive. Being a good conversationalist, offering a good balance of talking and listening, is imperative for creating attraction. Having a light-hearted attitude is very important. Women love to see a smile and love to smile! A common trait listed in women's online dating profiles is the man's ability to make her laugh!
There is one aspect of female attraction that you can't control. It is the unique odor that men release in their perspiration. Women are especially sensitive to it at around the time of ovulation. It can be a powerful attractor, and it can equally be a powerful repeller. Even if you do everything right, some women will simply not feel an attraction toward you. Research has shown that the smell of perspiration is related to the body's immune system. Immune systems behave similarly between people who are closely related and quite differently between those who are not as genetically related. Two vastly different immune systems, and thus vastly different genetics, are preferred in the evolutionary process. Don't take it personally. This is just nature's way of sustaining a viable species over the long term. Men are also sensitive to the scent of a woman, particularly to the smell of her vaginal secretions. This odor causes men to become much less cognizant of her physical attractiveness and much more interested in having sex with her. Women seem to regulate and control the selective mating process more than her male counterpart.
There are aspects of attraction that a woman can't control. Even while in a happy long-term family relationship, a woman may feel a strong uncontrollable temptation to cheat at around her time of ovulation. This is part of an unconscious quest to find the best genes to contribute to her offspring. Interestingly, research has also shown that women who are in monogamous relationships tend to flirt more aggressively than women who are single; but this is only true during their time of ovulation.
One final point. Men often perceive women to be much more in to them that they actually are. There are a couple of reasons for this. Firstly, women use their charms to get men to open up about themselves. These women are trying to get to know you and gauge your long-term relationship qualifications. Another reason is that many women need validation. They can seek positive reactions from a guy without actually having a romantic interest in him.
The featured articles below are related to female attraction and how you can apply knowledge about it to improve your dating success. Expect new articles to published from time-to-time. Please feel free to send comments to:
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The art of flirting can be applied in many situations, romanticially and non-romantically; but, it is the key to communicating your interest to a woman. If you don't already possess this ability, begin with the articles on this web site and follow the links on the resource page. Charisma is, perhaps, the most powerful attractor that a man can possess - certainly more than good looks. It is a projection of self-confidence, personal integrality and trust. It is the male trait that draws women into the web of seduction; and it can be developed by anyone.
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Women
have an uncanny ability to detect confidence and comfort levels in men. If you have self-esteem
issues, lack confidence and, generally, lack basic social skills; you will likely
have limited dating opportunities. Boost your confidence and develop the
social skills needed to attract the girl of your dreams. (Coming in February)
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Boost Your Dating Confidence
It's hard to
be confident when you.ve been rejected a few times in the dating scene. Or
perhaps you've never been a confident person to begin with. So how do you
go about boosting your dating confidence so you can find the mate of your
dreams?
Confidence is what tells others you're in command, you have a love of life
and you.re worthy of being loved by someone equally as special. However, if
you're not confident, you may find yourself attracting the wrong people or
even worse, attracting no one. Below are some tips to help you boost your
confidence and become better at dating!
Believe In Yourself
If you don't believe you're an attractive, desirable person then how can someone
else believe? You need to take steps to believe in yourself and your abilities
in order for your confidence to shine through. Maybe you need to pamper yourself
a little extra with a haircut and some new clothes. Or perhaps you need to
feel more worthy by taking a course that will help you further your education. Nothing
says confidence like someone who's happy with their job and feeling smart.
Get Positive Support
If you find that your friends are negative and down about dating and life
in general, maybe you need to look for a few new friends. Nothing is more
beneficial than having a positive support team to help you learn to be confident.
A positive group of friends can help you learn what your best traits are and
how you can represent yourself better. Plus, if you need to do something proactive
toward building your dating confidence like losing a little weight or learning
how to dress more successfully, there's nothing like a good friend to help
you.
Be Busy
If you have a full, interesting life that makes you happy, you will ooze with
confidence! Take time to sign up for a class on a hobby or interest you.ve
always wanted to pursue. Maybe you want to learn to ski, or play a sport,
or learn to speak a different language. New experiences keep you busy but
the best part is that they put you into a different dating pool. Compatible
people enjoy doing the same things, so why not look for confidence and love
at an art class or whilst learning to scuba dive?
Practice Dating
Like any activity, dating takes practice to be good at it. Don't be afraid
to put yourself out there and learn how to talk to the opposite sex. Consider
trying something new, like online dating, or speed dating to get some practice.
Of course there's rejection, but just remember that not everyone is compatible
with each other, and your feelings will remain intact. On the positive side,
you could end up dating two or three people at once. Dating confidence is
easier to find when you.re popular, so get on with the practicing and watch
your confidence levels soar.
In Conclusion
You need confidence in order to present yourself as a sexy individual ready
for love and a relationship. Without it, you may find yourself alone or dating
the wrong people. However, by practicing dating, working on your self esteem
and expanding your interests you too can learn to be a confident, sexy person
ready for dating!
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Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/boost-your-dating-confidence-574405.html
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